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Learning To Trust Yourself With Dr. Nicole Woodard

In today’s episode of The Zesty Podcast, our mindset ninja, Megan Blacksmith, is joined by a very special guest, Dr. Nicole Woodard. In this episode they talk about how to teach people to be enough, being in your being and not your doing, and the importance of being open and vulnerable. 

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Podcast Transcript:

Megan Blacksmith  

Hi, everybody. Welcome to the zesty podcast. This is Megan here and I have a special guest Dr. Nicole with me today Dr. Nicole is a doctor of physical therapy and life coach. She combines her certifications, her own healing journey and the work with professional athletes to develop protocols for finding happiness and longevity in your life. And as you will find in this interview today, Nicole radiates and emanates happiness and joy. And so we all want a piece of that Nicole so welcome. We can’t wait to hear your secrets.

Dr. Nicole  

thank you. Well, hey, that’s it’s actually now my insights and my outsides all match. So I’m super excited that now it’s like joy in all aspects of life. And a lot of that is thanks to you, and zesty gingers and all my work there too.

Megan Blacksmith  

Oh, I love that insides and outsides all match. We’re gonna get into that. I want you to just back us up a little bit. Can you just tell us a little bit about your business, your work your mission, what you’re here to do?

Dr. Nicole  

Yeah, so my business started as a complete joke. In 2017, I was transitioning my son had been born and I gave myself a year at the job that I was at. Because I was commuting about two hours and 20 minutes a day, and decided after that year, I should get a job a little bit closer to home so I could spend more time with him. And when I did that, I wanted to stay in contact with all my clients, I was president of a triathlon team there. So I started my business and I would literally go to someone’s house. And we would have, they would all bring carry in and sit with these huge coolers with drinks. And my table would just be in the center and everybody just hang out and rotate. And I would do my soft tissue work and assess any injuries. And I would go about once a month. And that’s really how my business started. And then as I noticed, as I got more and more into being a business owner, I got farther and farther away from that family aspect. And things became more clinical, just like they were at my job. And that didn’t always feel good. It felt like I was balancing two jobs. And for me, that job connotation did not feel good. And in 2019, I was at an Ironman event. And right in front of me. A bike had a bike for semi collision. And so I immediately threw down my bike, I began to respond and administer CPR and try to get help, we don’t have cell phones. And that day that athlete lost their life. And for whatever reason, it completely changed everything for me. And the reason I say for whatever reason is because there was this weird phenomenon that happened. I was there and then teammates of hers that knew her they traveled and about a group of eight that day for that race. They stopped and they stopped racing. But other people saw the accident happen and they kept going. Some people stopped and said Is everything okay? And they kept going. Some people actually helped us administer medical care. And then when they ambulances got there, they were able to wash the blood off their hands and keep going. And for me, that wasn’t even an option. I was almost in I get a catatonic state. And I went back to my friend’s house. Luckily, I was gonna go the race by myself. Luckily I did not my best friend at the last minute was like, Nicole, you’re not going by yourself. She came with me. And she took me back to her parents house, which is about 45 minutes away, and I showered. And while I showered, I just heard this. I was like, Why me? Why does this stuff always happen to me? And I heard this very distinct answer that was like, you know why. And I knew in that moment that it was time for me to really actually do the hard things and change my life and not live as the status quo anymore. I tried to go back to work. But I put in my resignation within two months, I completely left corporate healthcare, I had an insanely amazing job that most people dream about. And I went full time in my business, and really focused solely on my children, my family life. That was in January 2020. And then I rode the wave of COVID. And now I’m here and my business has taken so many pivots. But I always go back to that, you know, the reason why. And I believe that the reason that I’m here is to teach people how to be and their being, that we’re enough the way that we are, we don’t constantly need to be fixing things. It doesn’t mean that we don’t sign up for growth, or awareness of the world around us. But it means that we don’t berate ourselves that we’re, we are happy with who we are as human beings. And you guys talk about this integration of all the parts of yourself. So being in your being and not in your doing is what leads to your success. And that’s that’s been a common theme for me ever since 2019.

Megan Blacksmith  

Wow, I’ve never heard that story and uncle. Yeah, my goodness. What do you think it was in that? I mean, it was a very shocking event. And you were you were the first one on the Wow, okay. What do you think that real? What do you think led to that realization? Was it about? It’s very interesting that you brought up the fact that some people could keep going and some people stopped? Some people didn’t? Did it have to do with that? Or was it your role in being first on the scene?

Dr. Nicole  

I think it was the fact that there was a couple of things. The first thing was that it was my first realization truly, that life is really short. Because you kind of you know these things. But when you see someone, she literally came out to compete that day, you know, and her teammates were sharing that she was debating wetsuit or no wetsuit, what would be the fastest way to swim that day. And then 15 minutes after she comes out of the swim, she’s lost her life. And it reminded me that like, even when we’re doing things that we love, that that could be the last moment. And you need to make sure that you really are doing things that you love, as often as possible. And that could mean something as simple as cleaning the house and learning to love cleaning the house, because that could be the last time that you ever clean your house, it could be the last time you ever get on a bike. And so that was the first thing. And then the second part of that, as I kept going was the realization that I was having in my daily life of come back and go to work on Monday. Like, how do I go to work on Monday, when I literally just held someone that took their last breath. And I took time off, and it wasn’t enough. And then I needed mental health services, because I thought I needed to keep going right? So I had all these thoughts, didn’t understand what’s happening in my life. And I needed to keep going. And I needed to be back to quote unquote, normal. And so I called for mental health services. And they told me it was a six month waiting list. And the only place that could take me was an hour and a half drive away from my house, which means that I would miss at least one day a week of work to go to mental health services. And that wasn’t going to work either. And so I kept asking for more and more and more concessions at work and feeling guilty or guilty or guilty or because I just wanted to be normal. I just wanted to be productive. And then I realized that was a common theme of my life. That was a common theme even of the racers lives that from the perception of what I was seeing. I have no idea what they were actually thinking that day. But my perception is if I keep going, everything will be normal. If I get to the finish line, everything will be normal. And for me it was this final realization that like my life isn’t meant to be normal. It’s meant to be extraordinary and I am Now willing to stand up and figure out how to make that work. And that means that I’m not just gonna get to go with the flow of the current of everyone else anymore. I have to stand up. And I have to say we can do things differently. And that’s okay, too. So it’s kind of that two part.

Megan Blacksmith  

Wow. What were you experiencing Nicole in that time in between where you’re attempting to go back to work, but you’re not totally feeling like you can be there when you were looking for mental health services? What were you experiences like physically in your body or emotionally or

Dr. Nicole  

mentally? Yeah. So I knew at the time, I had struggled with suicide before, like when I was very, very, very, very young. And so I knew I wasn’t feeling like that. But I knew something wasn’t right. So I couldn’t get out of bed in the morning. I felt complete either apathy, or way over dramatized emotions, meaning I was really angry, I was really sad, sad, or I wanted no one to be around me, it was like, just go away. And at the same time, my mental chatter was just going, suck it up, Nicole, suck it up, like everyone else is fine. Why are you not fine. And it felt like so much restriction. Like I felt it in my throat. I felt it in my chest. Constant churning of my stomach, like it felt like there was like an earthquake constantly going on inside of my stomach. And the more I tried to put one foot in front of the other, the louder the symptoms got. And, and then finally making that phone call, like, hey, I need counseling. And then hearing, it’s a six month wait. And the people on the other end weren’t necessarily super kind. They were just like, Well, do you want to hurt yourself or hurt someone else? And I was like, No. And they were like, okay, then it’s a six month waiting list. And that that was it. And I was like, it took a lot for me to call. And I had been in counseling off and on since I was 12 years old. Like, think about people that that’s maybe their first time. I’m like this is and that moment, I remember, I felt so lost. And I actually went to the chaplain of the hospital that I worked with. And I went and I said, I need help. And I don’t know how or where to get it. This is what I’m running into. And luckily, this man is the most amazing man who’s actually a Catholic priest, and then he left the diocese, and went through several different like, iterations of himself. And so he shared with me, he shared Buddhism, he shared Christianity, he shared Catholicism, he shared saints with me, he shared all these pieces. And as he did that, I slowly felt things coming back together. And I knew I couldn’t walk back into work, like I was like this, this isn’t gonna work for me anymore. And I also had to come to a huge realization that leaving work meant loving myself when other people would hate me. And that wasn’t just like mental chatter that ended up being a big part of reality. And that was the first time that I chose myself over other people. And that was a huge monumental move

for me. Wow, I

Megan Blacksmith  

get chills is so good, Nicole, because I know many people listening are going to have had that moment of I don’t feel right. And it’s been like the right amount of time I’m doing air quotes right from the listener to the audio. It’s just like this you know, I don’t know what you were told but people around you whoever may be thinking hey, it’s been long enough. Right? And so then you have to really dig deep of where do i Where do I go from here? Do I trust my self and my body that saying If it hasn’t, like there’s something else? Or do I just one foot in front of the other keep going to the job it’s it’s a big decision in that moment. So you What do you feel and then I’m just curious timeline wise and at some point you ended up hanging out with us over at XSD which we’re very excited about Nicole came to our transformation accelerator coaching practitioner training, although that was much further along the road. So when you were when you found us at what point of the journey where are you in relation to this incident?

Dr. Nicole  

Okay, so in the into that so July 2019, was like my massive wake up call that was the Ironman event. And then I ended up leaving my job fully. I was completely done January 1 2020. So I put in actually a 90 day resignation because I was is the leader of a sports program there. So I had multiple people that were really depending on me to run the vision of this program. Um, so I completely left in January 2020, I was already enrolled in a mastermind with Jen Casey Fowler. She’s so great. Um, and so that was happening, and there were events going on. So that had kind of been spanning this whole time. Well, Jen, at the mastermind event, she told us, Hey, I wouldn’t be able to be here. If it wasn’t for Megan and Dr. Alex, because I had so much brain fog, and I couldn’t push through any more. I felt like maybe my hormones were off, maybe there was something else going on medically. And she was like, and then luckily, I found them. They helped me get the testing. And they helped me realize what else was happening. So she was kind of saying all this stuff. And I don’t even remember if it was before the accident, kind of close after the accident after I left. But it was in that like, kind of whole mix of things. And so she immediately spawned me off, and I’m like, Hey, maybe I can finally heal my period. Like I had a bad cycle since my very first cycle. And I was like, maybe I can, like heal my own hormones. And maybe that’ll help with. And this is funny, I thought maybe that would help with my productivity. And I’m like, because if I’m not so sick for you know, 710 days, I every time I have my period that I’m in bed and like can barely walk, then I can be more productive, because now I get 10 days back every month. And so I waited, and then I did you guys had already launched your the 12 week HTA. And so I couldn’t be in that round. I needed to wait for the next one. So then I was in your next round of HTA. And so that would have been spring of that have been spring of 2021. That sounds right. Yeah. Yeah, I think so. Anyway, so and then I came into that event, which we’ve talked about this, but it’s funny, because I just wanted to heal, like all parts of me that were like female. So I was like, Oh, these are the female hormone experts. And you guys had just really taken the deep dive and changed HTA to more being the mindset pieces. And I remember you couldn’t get a refund until week four. So I get in on week one. And I’m like, I’ve read all these books. I’m with Jen, I know these things, like oh my gosh, and I was like, Well, I have to show that I did all the work or I can’t get the refund. And I really want this testing in week four. So I guess I’m going to keep going. And so then I get to week four, and I’m like, Oh man, this stuff’s actually working. So I did the testing and kept going with a program that lo and behold as now you guys know, like, I went to their one week long training for Neuro Linguistic Programming, hypnosis, all Quantum Time technique. And I already had that certification. Like so I came because it was so vested in the transformation that you guys provided for me when I thought I was coming in as like a beginner’s or learning mindset but I wasn’t I was like, hey, just give me the one thing that’s gonna finally fix me and make me productive so that I can be like everybody else. And what I needed to do was except to myself as I was in start creating my own protocols for healing my interesting myself. So all of this was just kind of continuing to snowball with that trust yourself.

Dr. Alex Golden  

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Megan Blacksmith  

Right? So okay, so you went to one NLP training and you got certified, and then you decided you were ready for more transformation, and you’re willing to do it again, which we’ve loved. Because that’s the kind of people that we end up working with are just all in and they know the power of repetition. I mean, that’s the kind of thing you can’t really hear too much ever. I know, I’ve been through the level one myself probably six times, because in order to become a trainer, you have to learn it and over and over. So tell us Tell me a little bit about that. Was there a big difference in the second round? And how you showed up? Like, were you able to get more out of it? Because you were a different person by then.

Dr. Nicole  

Yeah. So number one, when I went through my first program, I was still working a full time job. So I loved the first program that I went through as an online, which worked really well. So this was all happening during 2020. And it was three hours of like workbook work, and then three hours online at night. Well, I loved that I got these connections with these great women during times of COVID. Like that felt really supportive to me and just left my job. So that really helped. But at the same time, I’m still like transitioning out of my job. I’m trying to figure out how to run a household because I also had this idea that if you quit your job, and now you’re at home, even though you’re trying to run a business, that you should do everything. So my kids at home with me. So I’m doing home school, I’m doing all the household stuff. And so I really was there to learn that task so that I could make money wasn’t really about me being on my own healing journey. It wasn’t even about me understanding, I understood I was missing something as a physical therapist, people would lay on my table, and they would like divulge these things. And I was like, oh, gosh, I need to I need to hold space for this person. But I’ve actually never been able to taught how to hold space. And I was aware that people were confiding in me because they they trusted who I was, but I still didn’t have the tools to hold the proper space for them. And so as we’re going through, you know, those transition times, it was still about the task of learning. Like okay, can I do anchoring? Perfect? Yes, I can go and apply it to a client go and get a client. And I didn’t understand still are seeing pieces and parts of myself and pieces and parts of learning when I got through HTA and then with you guys, and then I decided, You know what I’m actually going to do this live event. Number one, being in live energy is insane. It’s so different. I love hybrid businesses. I love when people have stuff online because it’s accessible. It allows different cultures, different ideas, different backgrounds, all to be in the same room together to learn how to trust each other to make sure it’s the right container to be actually in person together. When all those things are set up and then you’re in person together. Like literally like the mind blown emoji, I mean, times 1000 is crazy. What happens when I showed up because of all the work that I was doing with you guys, I showed up and I said this is the one time I’m going to choose to be 100% myself. This is the first time I’ve ever said that. I was so scared I thought I remember talking to Megan and you were like what will happen if you show up 100% as yourself you ask for your needs to be met. And I said everyone will hate me and you’re gonna kick me out of your group and I won’t be invited back. I and I really believed that about myself. And I said okay, worst case scenario I trust Megan and Dr. Alex that they really will remove me for one they’re not gonna let me like hurt other people. Right? That was also one of my fears. Like what if I actually hurt other people? What if underneath all of this, like layering of conditioning, I’m actually a really evil person. And that guilt that had built up over time. And I thought the only way to get rid of that guilt was to become what other people wanted me to. And so I walked through the door of our house and I was just like, This is me, I’m going to speak my truth. I’m going to ask for what I need. I’m gonna hold people in kindness. And I’m all in for seven days to be myself. And now I can’t go back like like, Oh, this is just me.

Megan Blacksmith  

It just stuck.

Dr. Nicole  

Because turns out, people still liked me. And I liked me a heck of a lot better. And I trusted me a lot more.

Megan Blacksmith  

Right? I love that takeaway. Turns out not only people like you maybe like, do even better, because they if for anybody who’s been around a cold person, like you can feel her energy. She’s contagious. And she just has this joy and excitement. So we like want to know what’s inside. And I think people feel really connected. And when you’re when you are like really open and vulnerable and letting us know what’s inside. Because we’re like, well, we want that what’s on out on the outside. So tell us and when that when you are open sharing, maybe there’s something inside that you don’t want to share. We’re like, Oh, good, we have those things inside too. So we can also get the place outside, right of feeling happy or being a joyful person or having that kind of energy. So I just want to thank you for showing up in that such an amazing way. We have we had such a good group where everyone really was like, Okay, we’re here to do this. We’re here to do this. And we’re all in what was the biggest? Was there anything surprising? That happened during the week because you were showed up? All in like that.

Dr. Nicole  

So there was a couple of things. So the I like love soaking and tubs is my absolute favorite thing. It’s how I kind of come down at the end of every day here. And I the big so I was on a pullout couch in the middle of our like Airbnb. And I’m like, Well, nothing’s gonna say you need your needs met, like just being out here in the open. And so one of the girls had the master bedroom, and I had this big soaker tub. And I was like, Hey, can I like, you know, take a bath or whatever, whenever we get done today, and she was like, Yeah, of course. And then the next day, I was like, Hey, do you care if I get in and soak and then we can eat dinner? And I remember she was like, actually, I don’t care if you soak. But can you be done by seven? Because I want to like talk to my husband. Or maybe she said nine, something like that. And I was like, Yeah, that’s actually completely fine. And I remember being so excited that she set a boundary. And I felt no guilt. I felt none of this like, oh my gosh, I’m so sorry. I guess I shouldn’t have asked, and I want us tomorrow. And like I normally would have, instead I was just like, yeah, actually, that feels really good to me, I’ll go and get that done right now. So that you can be in there. Thank you so much for sharing what felt good to you. And then that’s just how our house went the rest of the time. And that to me was like, wow, these are the types of women I want to be around all the time. This is the type of marriage that I want to have. This is the type of relationship that I want to have with my kids to where we can communicate and there doesn’t need to be guilt overlying it in order to get someone to quote unquote, do what you want them to do, or for me to feel guilt. And then I changed myself for other people so that they’ll like me. And all of that just gotten like so crazy. So that was the first one. And then the second one was I think it was the last day maybe it’s the third the last day of the second to last day. And I remember you guys had said like, as the week progresses, you’ll like keep feeling better and better and better. And I get to the last day, the second to last day and I am like not feeling good. I don’t want to go. I’m mad. A lot of stuff had come up and I had felt okay with it in the moment. And then I was like, You know what, I’m not okay, this makes me angry. I don’t want to see people. And I literally told the girls in the house was like FYI, I’m gonna have like a massive temper tantrum in here on my bed because it’s the only way that I’m going to go today. And I am fine. I do not need an intervention. And anyway, if I need something from you, I will ask but right now like this has got to get out. And I literally lay down on my bed and I’m like kicking and screaming and my pillow and I’m like saying cuss words. I’m like, I don’t want to call. I don’t like these people. I don’t want to work on myself anymore. Like smell. And I was like, totally losing my mind. And then finally I get through and it like goes through that big just letting it all out. And it just tapers down and I finally feel calm. And I’m like, okay, we can get in the car now. And that was a huge moment for me because I just expressed what needed to be expressed. And then I got to like to the place where we’re at I journaled. And then I asked, I ended up asking Michelle, I was like, hey, I need some help to continue to process, she set me up with one of the other girls, Katie, we did this amazing session, and all of a sudden, that’s truly the moment that guilt went, it was like, it’s gone. And that was really, so those two instances of really showing up and feeling that change in the moment were big for me.

Megan Blacksmith  

Oh, I love that you bonded with your household. So, so much. And I love that this is something I’m right now really working with my kids on the idea of when you can be in a container like that, right? Where there are five people, right Nepal in that house. Yeah. And you mean that container and you realize, like, I can just me as a, you know, past perfectionist people pleaser that you can just say, This is what I need. And you can trust that the other people will say, okay, awesome, although this is what I need, like, how can we make that work together? Versus the mind reading that I did. As a kid, I was like, the bring everybody together in the middle person, right? Like, keep everybody happy. And I realized I was passing that on to my kids. In some scenarios of telling them I was like, Yeah, I know that that person said that you can do that thing anytime you want. I was like, but I know, because I hear the chatter, that really, they didn’t mean that. And that is actually too much. And then I realized what I was doing with telling them not to believe what someone said, at face value. And then to try to read into like their body language. And, and I’ve, my kids are great at, you know, body language and understanding, although, like, I want them to actually just believe what people say and do it. And if that person didn’t mean that, that person isn’t gonna have to deal with it. Right? They’re gonna have to come back and be like, Oh, wow, yeah, I actually didn’t mean that. Right. And it’s just so cool that you all got to essentially, like practice that, in real time, in a house together, was

Dr. Nicole  

amazing. And like, I’m just so appreciative to have them like playing along, like, they did it too, you know, everybody just showed up for themselves. And that is, that’s a hard thing to do. That in and of itself is really big. And so I’m so glad that I was able to be around so many people that decided to make that choice. Because it also in seven days, it allowed me to see and realize that I could be myself without them playing along. I don’t know if I would have had as profound of an outcome where I just seven days, and then I walk away. And I’m like, actually, this is who I am now, this is how I communicate now. And that was life changing for me. So it’s, it’s also just so such gratitude for the containers that you guys put together to that hold that kind of honesty for people.

Megan Blacksmith  

Like you came in for a period. And then you came in together for some money and you got a very different outcome.

Dr. Nicole  

I love it. Yeah. And at the same point, very different outcome. And also, like, I healed my period, my period is three days long. It’s frickin amazing. Like, I can travel on it like, it is the bomb diggity. And I had my biggest launch I’ve ever had with 19 Women in my group coaching program, and that is 13 larger than any launch I’ve ever had. So like, I got that too with out focusing on it. Be by being authentic.

Megan Blacksmith  

Congratulations. Is this in the happiness? Right? Yes, yes. Well, let’s talk about this. How have you integrated everything you were doing before with what you learned about yourself and the new tools? Like what? What how are you operating now?

Dr. Nicole  

It’s weird because I can’t even like it just feels like I’m operating as me.

Megan Blacksmith  

No words. Yes.

Dr. Nicole  

Like, because it’s just the mental chatter is either gone. So it’s just not there anymore. And I’m like, Oh, that’s weird. I just made that decision. And that actually wasn’t a big deal. Or Are the mental chatter comes up. And I know that that is it’s not assigned to ignore it. That’s, that’s a huge thing. It’s assigned to actually I sit down and I just write whatever it is that is being said, in my brain. And then I just look at it and I say, is that true? And then I decide what emotions come up with that. And even if I feel as though it’s true to me, right now, I just say is that something I want to continue to believe, and I just move forward with it. So essentially, that really strong mental chatter is now just a time for me to say, hey, pause, you need to move and get alone for just a little bit, it might just need to be an extra five minutes in the car, it might just need to be like, Hey, I’m gonna go back to my bedroom and process. And that like what you were saying, with your kids, that’s also when I want to show my kids my spouse is, when these things are happening. When I’m feeling angry, I actually go and throw a temper tantrum as long as it’s a safe place to do that. Because that’s really what my body wants, I am guessing eventually, the temper tantrums are going to slow down. But right now I’ve ignored that two year old self and told myself to be a good girl for 35 years. And it’s ready to come out. So I just honor those and I take those lessons as a pause. And that’s really the only difference it either doesn’t exist because that pattern is gone for me. Or it exists. And it’s just like an immediate sign to pause to listen, and to really decide what I want to be true.

Megan Blacksmith  

You know, okay, tell us about how your program works and and how you’re serving people differently now.

Dr. Nicole  

Yeah, so what I do is I actually, at first, I thought, I don’t want to be a physical therapist anymore. And in reality, I actually loved my job, I just had a lot of like, work PTSD, to work through. So I combined the physical therapy with all the mindset tools, the neuro linguistic programming, and then my years working with professional athletes, as well as my own healing journey. And I started to develop this protocol. So actually, those of you guys have known that we have adopted all of our children. Well, our last adoption will probably be done this year. So right now, technically, our oldest is with us through the foster system. And so, Maddie, our youngest, who will be too soon, and Braxton our oldest, who came to live with us, when he was 14, they came to live with us all within four months. And I thought I would like keep working and doing all the things because even though I was healed, like, there’s still, there’s still always like different ways that it shows up for us, right. And then so finally, in August, I was like, I can’t do this anymore. And I sent out an email, I shut down my entire physical therapy business, I was like, I’m done. I took four months off, I had no idea whether I would ever work again. And any anyone that’s listening to this, that gets their some of their self worth from working. Extreme, extremely scary. I went to school for a long time, I was a straight A student. And I literally in that moment, said, I am not working and I’m going to stay at home with my kids and heal myself. And I had no idea if I was actually going to ever work in my own business. And my business had been a thing of, okay, like, this is still where I get a lot of self worth. I’m still one of the best physical therapists, people still really want to see me and I’m in high demand. And I just completely let that go. And I had no idea how long that would last. And so it ended up lasting about four months, and really ended about three days before the January event with you guys. And I had this moment, I knew I was going to the January event. And I was like if I go and it’s for myself that falls in alignment with what I’m doing. I didn’t make it mean a work thing at all. But about three days before I was literally washing dishes, and all of a sudden I was like, Huh, what if I could love myself? If this is what I did? I washed dishes, I took care of my kids. I did fun things. I danced around the house while I cleaned. Can I love myself if this is my life, at least right now. And all of a sudden I started dying laughing. I was like, Yeah, I can like this is awesome. And then write with that was like and I’m ready to work because I know I can do both and I can love both sides of me and I can be both whenever I need Do and I was like, Well, that was cool. And so then I came to the January event, world rocked again. And that’s whenever I signed up and I was like, Hey, I’m in for level one I’m in for coaching I’m in for really the deep dive, I’m in for the repeatability of HTA, the cycle that you guys teach, because I knew how powerful that was. And in that four months off, I actually developed my own program, just through my own healing. I was just journaling, journaling, journaling. So I went back through, and that was the program that I launched whenever I got back from the January event. So it’s the happiness cycle. It’s four weeks, so it’s super fast. Because I asked women, can you just commit to yourself for four weeks? That’s all it is. It’s one month out of 12 of one year of your life can can you do that. And it’s specifically for women who have been taking care of everything and everyone else. And they want to learn how to take care of themselves. And we go through so the protocol is four weeks, the first week is the physical body spells getting paid because, you know, I just believe that everyone should get paid but not necessarily in money. There’s lots of other ways to get paid to. In addition to so physical body is the first one. The second week is all about alignment. So we dive into core values, your life purpose outside of your roles and responsibilities. And we learn we start learning about human design. The third week is intentionality. This is where we go into goals and beliefs and the energetics of how you’re showing up within the identity you want to be. And then the last week is doing the work. So now it’s like okay, take all these things set free. This is a repeatable cycle you can do in any moment in any day. And inside any goal. Now doing the work. What’s the balance of seasons of your life? What’s the balance of masculine and feminine energy? What’s the balance of rest and play? And really putting those together? And so we’re on our second round, and these women are like, just crack in my soul right open. They’re so awesome.

Megan Blacksmith  

I love it. So that means people can work with you remotely online. Yeah, no. Yeah. All over all over the world.

Dr. Nicole  

All over the world. Yeah. We have people from all over the US. But I’ve worked with people all over the world, even in my past practice, because I’ve been online since 2019. So yeah, I’ve worked with people from Australia. Man, that timezone is a rough one. But anywhere in the world, people are welcome to connect with me.

Megan Blacksmith  

Beautiful. Well, thank you so much, Nicole, I this story from the star and just really sharing your transition is so helpful. I heard so much of my story in that. So I imagine everybody else did as well. And we will make sure to have your Instagram in the show notes and all the ways to get in touch with Nicole, go find her. Go follow her, please, we both would love your feedback. So if you want to tag us in on Instagram, share a story, your biggest takeaways they were all there were a lot of really good nuggets in this, Nicole. So thank you for your time and for showing up as you.

Dr. Nicole  

You’re welcome. Thank you for helping me find me.

Megan Blacksmith  

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